Blast from d past!

I have learn about d rubberband man... Thanks to Rori and coincidently he strikes again... It could be a blast from the past for him.. And for me too... I just can't sleep now. Feeling ao angry... People say it's bad to sleep with an angry heart .. How true! But again who cares...! The TV program doesn't help too.. How do man relate watching American's Top Model so closely every Thursday night? A blast from his past ..?? Deal or no deal? Cookie monster? Chipsmore cookie... ? Umbrella by Rihanna..!!!   "Latte" ??? What d hell... ! I seems to know more things now.. More than I should ever know :( and it's really hard to let go...:(

Personal thoughts by d beach..

I finally get some time and space to write ... I have been wanting to write for the last 3 weeks but I have been working 12 hours everyday. I am at the Sand Bar, Siloso Beach in Sentosa now, sipping Chris Creation mocktail, listening to some nice piped in music and facing the beach .. The firework will commence at 8 shortly from the Song of the Sea laserlight show next door.

How I wish life is like this everyday. Slow pace with a mind free of worries, stress and pressure.. for now. It's a Friday evening and I am so relieve to offload all my work in the office. Tomorrow is gonna be a great day. I have my 2 hours cardio and weight training in the morning and a planned surprise birthday party for a colleague in the evening.

While in d car earlier driving into Sentosa, I was listening to Bryan Adams songs.. Luv 3 of the pieces .." to really love a woman", "finally found someone" and "please forgive me".. The last song in particular sent lots of memories. I wrote once before in my earlier blog about me missing my best friend. That song play a big part in connecting me and my best friend whenever we fought. How I really wish I have my best friend to just be with me.. When I have my despair now, only that best friend can lift up my spirits. Even my other half now cannot fill in d gap.

Talking about my other half, I just feel that he should be more soft in his approach to me. I always wanted him to be part of my social life, party with me, have dinner with me and my friends, get to know my colleagues, get close to my cousins...but I get nothing close to it. It's always a trade off in any relationship I have.. I never get a good package. The truth is , I am a very simple partner.. I never ask for anymore more but just the attention n care. Nothing much right?

It's gonna be a long road ahead for me and my other half... Brutally truth, I wish he could be more like my best friend. I can't change my other half.. I love him and will manage the differences that we both have. I hope by me being the attention giver, passionate and caring one, he will learn to mirror them and hopefully slowly change for the better....all in the name of love ..

They always say.. " in a successful marriage, it's always important to have your partner falling in love over and over again with you (vice versa). That's the recipe to a lasting happy loving marriage... Double confirm

Can I be your.....

Have you misplaced it?

Where's...

I am still waiting .......

Best Fwen...???

I miss my best friend.....he was there with me through thick and thin times for 7 years....he understood me, supported me when I was down and never once took advantage of our closeness. He could have been my soul mate if he is not married... a rare find. We shared about our work, we go shopping together, we talked about cars, we bitched about other people, we shared favourite food, we go on buddies holiday together, we shared lots of  favourite movies, we party so crazily together, we were great dancing partners,  he accompanied and converse with me during my late night drive and early morning drive to work, we both love nice house deco, we compliment and motivate each other, we were perfect as best friends together....the only difference I see in him compared to other close friends I have is his constant communication, support and expressiveness of feelings which I think is crucial in every friendship and relationship. You express your thought and your feelings about things, you be heard and understood. Darn, I really miss having my best friend around. 

My dear best friend "OCK and Walyte", since you disappeared, I have become a lesser expressive person, I talked a little bit lesser and I really miss partying with you !!!!! Only your natural self can bring back the life in me....!!!

So what's next dude?

Crazy weekend.....

It was the Singapore General Election weekend where 2.1 millions Singaporean get to choose who shaped their next 5 years of heaven or hell, it was also the Mother's Day celebration following that.

2011 GE was crazy and so heated because this time round, it was a rare and roaring session for most disgruntled Singaporeans who finally wanted their angry and discontented voices to be heard. They could have just pen it down in the Straits Time forum page but I guess these people just want to create a memorable and emotional 11th GE since independence day.....

So what do the result mean? In brief....

1. Lots of rejected and spoilt votes...my aging dad admitted to be one of the culprit :-), But his one rejected vote will not change the future of Tampines as PAP won the GRC. This however shows that many of the aging citizens could be the culprit of these doings.....Singapore is dying and we need more babies to turn the reversed pyramid back

2. PAP needs to really buck up if they want to see more supporter... their votes were all time low since independence at 60.14% and 1st time ever, the Workers Party capture Aljunied and  manage  to retain Hougang.

3. Funny how the GE is also associated with Kate Spade......they found a new ambassador for that brand which soon will have sales dropping...ladies will boycott that Kate Spade just to show how much they detest Ms "Tem Pe Leng" (TPL)  of Marine Parade GRC.

4. Lots of Singaporeans still are very unhappy since PAP conquer the 81/87 of the contested GRCs.. More are even unhappy with George Yeo (GY) contested out....and are praying that GOD removed TPL and have GY replaced her.

5. Next coming GE, , it means that the opposition parties should perhaps consider that a consolidation of their best candidates into one party may represent the best chance for more opposition candidates to be voted in when the next GE happens....

So much  so after the results were out , emotions settle down and people resume their daily lives, it may be wise to sit back and reflect on the significance of this election and what it means now for the future of Singapore as well as the various parties that contested this GE....As for me, I am garnered towards listening to my head than heart. Being indoctrinated with the PAP basic kindergarten education doesn't  mean that I am inclined towards that party....I do look from other perspective where there are racial issues being questioned , the increasing cost of living, etc. Nonetheless,  I believe that the incumbent ruling party  together with the opposition should just synergies and marry each other for the benefit and good sake of their growing and developing "Childizens"... for now, I do miss singing Majulah Singapura :-)

How time flies ...How things change

About 1.5 year ago.... he says...

Now...It seems to me like..he has...

I am not surprise if I am suffering from .....

 

And It's all attributed to YOU !!!!

Needy Me...

Have you ever stopped to think about what your needs are in a relationship and in a marriage? Did you ever think they might be different from your other half?

"Needs".... what an interesting word. I used to be one of those people who didn’t even know that word when it came to a relationship. I knew I had “wants" but after a bitter divorce, my whole perspective in life change. I value more of those intangibles.  I was secretly reading this book in the office, during breaks ...“His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage,” by Willard F. Harley. Not wanting to bring it back home in fear that my other half will be laughing at me for "going back to book" for such matters.

Excerpt from His Needs, Her Needs

“In my counseling experience, I have identified five basic needs men expect their wives to fulfill and five needs women expect their husbands to meet. Time and again these ten needs have surfaced as I have helped literally thousands of couples improve their troubled marriages. Although each individual may perceive his or her needs differently, the consistency with which these two sets of five categories have surfaced to explain marital problems impresses me.

The man’s five most basic needs in marriage tend to be:

1. Sexual fulfillment

2. Recreational companionship

3. An attractive spouse

4. Domestic support

5. Admiration

The woman’s five most basic needs in marriage tend to be:

1. Affection

2. Conversation

3. Honesty and openness

4. Financial support

5. Family commitment

These categories may not apply equally to everyone. Some men and women will look at their respective lists and say, quite honestly, “I don’t share this or that need.” Sometimes people will see things on the list of the opposite sex that will strike them as more applicable to themselves. Long experience has taught me, however, that the vast majority of each sex do agree that the needs I have listed are their deepest ones when it comes to the marriage relationship.”

“In marriages that fail to meet those needs, I have seen, strikingly and alarmingly, how consistently married people choose the same pattern to satisfy their unmet needs: the extramarital affair. People wander into affairs with astonishing regularity, in spite of whatever strong moral or religious convictions they may hold. Why? Once a spouse lacks fulfillment of any of the five needs, it creates a thirst that must be quenched. If changes do not take place within the marriage to care for that need, the individual will face the powerful temptation to fill it outside of marriage.”

Don’t shoot me if you don’t agree. I’m just the messenger. I do think this is something to think about. Yes, it’s easy for us to say that people cheat because “they want to.” However, I don’t think most people go into marriage with the idea of being unfaithful to their spouse. We may not like it, but maybe there is something to what Dr. Harley is saying.

Eat, Pray, Love

I suddenly feel that things are out of balance in my world. I feel like something is not quite right . Many of us have felt that same way. That deep down in your soul knowing that something’s got to give, something has to change. It is time for something new. Time to re-evaluate our lives — what’s important to us, what are the keepers, what do we leave behind, what needs to change? 

The answer is different for us all. When you feel that call, know that it is time for you to stop and listen to your inner voice. (I’m not talking about the inner voice of negative, get-you-in-trouble self talk). For some it may mean you need to find your inner voice and to go on a journey of rediscovery — of yourself. You may have spent years always putting others needs first, catering to others, working in an area you no longer find fulfilling — or perhaps you never did. Maybe it’s time to ask yourself, “What do I really, really, really want?”

I always buy books when I am off for a holiday. I stumbled on this Eat, Pray and Love coming back from either Bangkok or Jakarta end 2009. 

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the bestseller “Eat, Pray, Love,” found herself at that point in her life when she knew it was time for a change. So she set out on a year long journey of self-discovery which took her to Italy, India, and Indonesia. I’m not saying anyone should mimic her journey. I think we must all find our own way and walk our own path.

 I felt then like I’ve just read a book that was custom written just for me. I’m in the letting go phase and consequently the grieving phase.. and I know that I’ll be the better for it. On the other side I hope I will come out stronger, wiser, and hopefully happier.

A very emotional day for me today....so much build up in my heart and mind and I only wish I can pen them down easily but hell yeah... it's will be a long thought and effort to carefully share them here. At all angles, it's just not looking good. From the routine weekend stay arrangements, the kids and their perpetual noise, the preparation for the big day, my endless piling work, the adult chemistry ...its just not working to my way. I feel suicidal at certain times but I know that is just a passing feeling coz I am damn determined to live for my kiddos and see them grow. Even if I don't feel suicidal but if God decides to end my life quick, I wish I die knowing for sure that I'm being appreciated and love as a person, as a friend, as an employee, as a sister, as a daughter and more importantly as a partner...it's always good to know your worth sometimes. I just can't write more for now..it's all so messy up there...I just pray to god to show me the right way...for now I am still not sure. 

Mrs Body Beautiful Wanna Be...

Thanks to Q and R, my two anonymous fun exercise buddies...I walked to the office today like as if I just walked out of labour ward giving birth to triplets....I had a great Sunday morning workout with these two enthusiast friends of mine, who at 6am on a cold Sunday morning started sending "wats app" text to one another, making sure all "rise and shine" geared to the morning work out...

I struggled out of bed that Sunday morning at 7 am after having a long Saturday night which ended at 2am...Left home at 750am and arrived slightly past 8 when I saw Q jumping "passionately" to the aerobics instructor's move in the class, all the pretentious initial move! LOL! ...After about an hour or so, three of us "panchit" and it didn't end there...we continued with our "pilates". Instructor commented we "play cheat" because the stretch band that our dear Q bought is the easiest and the average strength compared to the ones the rest  were using.... Thank God it was the average strength that we used, else, I will be bedridden today....

The muscle in me is pulling all over as I typed this now...I couldn't laugh, sneeze, cough because it feels like an major operation stitch is gonna tear...I walked very slowly, tiptoed in my heels (vanity sake) and walked like I moon walked out of the labour & delivery ward. I couldn't drive well and  couldn't turned my neck to check on the blind spots....I guessed I over stretched my whole anatomy....

I am serious to have that body (not that skinny "deal or no deal number 13" model type! yucks) ...and so is Madam Q and so is Madam R..... Q will want to sashay in her one piece bikini in TBC or for Al-Macallan and R will just be contend to sashay for ZeeBrator.... (private joke)

However, this excruciating pain and aches will not stop my determination to go for the next class which is the Body Sculpt with weight training ....hmmmm watch out world, the next Mrs Body BIULtiful will be out soon...check out the curves peeps!

Singing the Blues....

Yes.... I am having the BLUES now. Every Sunday morning, my blood will slowly change its colour from a  warm red to purplish blue.....at this hour, its at its best blue... I had in my last post stated how I wished I do not have to work. I still do have that sentiment. Don't be mistaken though... I love what I do. I love my colleagues. I love my company but I am just feeling the tiredness of it now. My boss left to do something better and that left me to do what she left behind. It's been two weeks and things are just picking up at a very high pace that I am all over the place and feeling so messy. I am not messy in my work but to juggle with my own responsibilities and having to shoulder additional tasks is just.....too much. 

How I wish now for a billionaire husband who can just feed me and the little ones, I am so damn tired of working, it has been a long 14 years of labour ..... For now, I really think...

On Strike

I realized I don't want to work anymore. I look at the people around me working 9-5 ... they don't even get to enjoy the day, because they are stuck in an office, or running around. Time differs by decade. Life is so challenging , whether it is fun,  easy, hard, or anything else, is based on how each choose to perceive it and your attitude about it. For me, I just need a break from work. I have not had any holiday this year (last year this time, I had 3 vacations, BKK, PER & Bali). It is crazier this year because of the extra responsibility that I have to shoulder in the office.Tell you more....

I have my ways of dealing with it ...

Half oxygen temporarily gone,,,

Feeling so down now.....wish someone stays. The next 8 days will be hard to...

Daddy's Girl

Alhamdulilah ...My parents and bro Fad arrived home safely from their 10 days pilgrimage this evening....my emotions were moved when I saw my dad....he looked fragile and frail...his eyes were covered with tears when he hug all the family members that welcomed them back at the airport....I really wish I could hug him tight and tell him how much I love him ....guess it's just the distance over the years that held me back from doing that ...nonetheless, my parents are still my 1st love in my life....

I grew up very close with my dad because I was the youngest and the only girl in the family. Daddy's girl. That 's me. Yup ...every sunday morning, we both would take a walk to the Marine Terrace market and have our favourite breakfast "Wak Nakem Nasi Sambal Goreng" with the yummy sotong sambal...after all these years, I still patron that stall and it's still my dad's favourite breakfast. Both my parents were secondary school teachers and I always had to make trips to their school for their school events and they would showcase me to their colleagues....Instead I had their male students chasing after me....hehehe that gave my parents headache. My three elder brothers  policed me growing up ...I tend to be rebellious when that happened...still is anyway. I would say that I had a good and proper upbringing, getting anything  I want. I went to good schools and had good circle of friends....nothing was short. I never was the snobbish, proud  or arrogant girl people thought I would be ...I would say that I grew up becoming a fine lady with great accomplishment.....and now being a mother of 3, I just have to watch that cycle do its gracious rounds.

Well..all I wanted to say is ...I am a great fan of family values. I love having a complete happy loving family. A family that looks after one another and laugh together. Some people would not see it that being my way especially with what I went through the last 2 years....the kids are growing up now without the full time presence of a father...I am the sole support for their emotions, well and mental being ....I want to give them what my parents provided me. A healthy, happy family benefits our whole society, makes the world a happier place to stay....most important, I want to ensure the kids are equipped with survival skills and good moral ethics,. not forgetting instilling  good religious faith in them...but I can't do it all alone in the long run ....I am already feeling so burnt out now. Thank God my family members are all behind me else I would have just given up long ago. That is why I love my family, they know when to be there when I need them and they know when to pace out when they feel it's my own call... In this battle of just keeping up....I just hope and pray that there's really light at the end of the tunnel. I really don't know but I do know and  I hope not to make any more wrong choices in life...And for now, I just want to keep on praying for my beloved dad's good health..

As the date draws nearer...the distance gets further....

Picture say a 1000 words....unbottled me...your complacency has taken over you......

Carpe Diem

Carpe Diem ......Sieze The Day.

How easily that caption goes.......but it's how difficult the past days and weeks were, that it was impossible for me to sieze it. My other half can't even lift it up....that is how bad things are.

Carpe Diem...This used to be my favourite one liner or tag line....and I am still the hopeful idiotic who always look forward to sieze the day or being the optimistic me...to seize the time.

I had an sms text from my bro who is doing his mini pilgrimage "umrah" a while ago with my parents. Conveying my dad's ailing health there and that just got me to think, that if only I could reach him and give dad my biggest hug. I could vividly still remember just a week ago when I hugged him and kissed both his cheeks at the airport before he departed for the pilgrimage and he candidly said, he always do that to me when I was a little girl....Seize that day again dad and I could just be that little girl he used to have.

Life is just to unpredictable now to waste it on being angry, to waste it on doing nothing. I get sleepless now thinking of how I could have just used that 2 hours prior to my state now to extend and spread my love and affection to my love ones here at home....my passion in me still burns strongly and Sieze that Everyday where I could just display my heart out....things never go that direction . It was never reciprocated.

Well, when the going gets tough...that tough decides to go sleeping ...sigh!!!

Carpe Diem....Seize the day and make it a beautiful one. Even half a day, a quarter day....I guess YOU still don't know me by now...

I hate Insomnia....

The Over Priced Roses Day....

Wiki says:

Saint Valentine's Day, commonly shortened to Valentine's Day, is an annual commemoration held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions.The day is named after one or more early Christian martyrs, Saint Valentine, and was established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD. It was deleted from the Roman calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI, but its religious observance is still permitted. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines"). The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

Well to me .....It is simply another ORDINARY DAY!  

For other Singaporeans maybe..its this time of year where Singapore transforms into one big heart shaped island, pink and Bordeaux red replace the National colors, the shop uncles in China town change their catch line to “Ah, Niceee, Valentines shopping, all cheap, cancan”.. and everybody (even the Money changers at Raffles Place) have their “Valentines Day Promotion” running. Its a time to show your loved one how much you love her and spend some loving money on lovely things making the shop owners love you and you loving your credit card. Everybody loves everyone and everything! Its Valentines Day In Singapore!

The Malaysian government has warned it's Muslims citizen over the printed press yesterday against it as the National Fatwa Council had decreed in 2005 that Muslims should refrain from celebrating Valentine's Day because it is not part of Islamic teachings and it's way to promote a "sin-free" lifestyle. No need to watch any RA movies today as we will see more "vice activities and immoral acts" being publicly displayed......But I guess that will not deter many other modern Malaysians to still celebrate VD...

Whilst that's in Malaysia, it also seems that VD is not loved in many areas of the world today! Papers reciting protests in some parts of the globe....in Southern India, members of a Hindu political party recently gathered to burn Valentine’s Day cards. In Dubai, which has traditionally permitted celebration of Valentine’s Day,  had the tourism authority banned the sale of alcohol because of the day's proximity of the Prophet Mohammed’s birthday, which this year falls on Tuesday, February 15.

There will also be cultural exploitation in Facebook today...with friends posting LOVE greetings on walls!

Anyway ...I read about about some fun facts on VD....

1. More than 35 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate will be sold for Valentine's Day. 

2. Over $1 billion worth of chocolate is purchased for Valentine's Day 

3. 73% of people who buy flowers for Valentine's Day are men, while only 27 percent are women

4.15% of U.S. women send themselves flowers on Valentine's Day. 

5.Teachers will receive the most Valentine's Day cards, followed by children, mothers, wives, sweethearts and pets. 

6.The most fantastic gift of love is the Taj Mahal in India. It was built by Mughal Emperor Shahjahan as a memorial to his wife. 

Again... I am very skeptical with anything to do with VD... If your other half promise you Bed Full Of Roses.... Bullshit, imagine how much that would hurt with the torn and how much that will BURN the pocket!

@$#&! Idle mind is a devil's workshop

It's been a long and busy Feb.....that's because a lot of big things have happened and been decided for the future. I will not write much on that considering that all things are still in planning stage.....I am sure of what I want but I am not sure of what it will be.....there is just too many things in my head!

As of now, I am just relaxing and watching one of my favourite bad boy sexy look Bon Jovi crooning all his hits on channel 5....amazing that at his age, he still look so yummy and tempting! He just did " I'll be there for you" - my favourite track since my secondary school days. I seriously wonder if any man out there can really live up to the lyrics.......not just treat it like a metaphor....sigh! I am relaxed now but in a melancholy mood. Sometimes I hate times when I am too relaxed because my mind will just be distracted and wander bout lots of things........

As a result of this mind idling, I just text my other half a suggestion that hopefully could help refresh and regain back what was magical and colourful before.....like the purple stalks that just wilted and died.....

Yes...and now my Bon Jovi is singing "Living on a prayer"....just what I need! Double sigh!

It's Bunny Time!

Rabbit Personality

People born in the year of the rabbit often make ideal diplomats or politicians. Rabbit person has grace, culture and beautiful manners. Although rabbit people get on well with everyone, at heart they are basically reserved creatures, and are only really happy when they are engrossed in some sort of intellectual activity. They are just too sensitive to the world around them. They are just not able to thrive in a competitive or aggressive environment, and it makes them anxious if someone forces them to take risks. Their inner world is simply too delicate for unsettled or unpredictable situations, and they tend to create a peaceful and comfortable atmosphere on a hunch. This character trait makes them very hospitable and attentive people, who take care of those around. The average rabbit person emphasizes the importance of small details. They pay attention to everything from colour, design and furniture to food and conversation. And only when they are sure that everything has been arranged as they wished, these people can relax and have fun. Person born in the year of rabbit often leads a conservative lifestyle, where one of the most important things is their security. This quality has a negative side also. Opting for safety over risk they may miss good opportunities. This does not imply that these people are frivolous or irresponsible, for when they truly believe in some thing they are serious, perseverance and capable.

Calm as they are, it is not easy to provoke rabbit people. They are sentimental and compassionate. Yes, and they cry easily too. They can be moved by personal problems you share with them. Therefore, if you work as a salesman for a living, you will have much better luck with rabbit people - Nine out of Ten Rabbit people will definitely buy your products!

 

 

Rabbit Love Affairs

People born in this year can be great partners in relationships. Romantic and sweet, faithful too, rabbit people never lack of suitors. They are in extreme need of trust, security and tenderness in a relationship and are really happy when they manage to create an intimate and relaxed atmosphere. When the rabbit person does the planning, he/she is happy calling the shots and will expect his beloved automatically be on the same wavelength. In case the partner's behaviour becomes erratic or hurtful he/she withdraws into your shell. Sometimes this person really believes that everything is fine and these relationships are strong and solid, but careless remark or impudent behaviour can suddenly place serious doubts in his/her mind. It is important to solve such problems appropriately. Partners may discuss these fears and express their points of view openly to avoid repetition of these problems in the future. Otherwise these relationships won't last too long.

In spite of his/her devotion to the loved one, it is important to remember that the rabbit person wants to have a secret side to his/her life, too. It is natural for him/her to demand solitude in order to get in touch with his/her inner self.

Sometimes it takes time for a rabbit person to find a partner, a real soul-mate, and he/she may seem to be fickle and insecure along the way, but when he/she has found that person his/her attachment is boundless.

 

 

Rabbit Career

Call them cautious or call them timid, rabbit people will undertake nothing before they have weighed the pros and cons from every angle. And that is probably why rabbit people are doing their work so well. They are balanced in outlook and cautious in approach, and like to be informed of all the facts before making a judgment. They usually can not bear the cut and thrust of business life preferring work that is more methodical and reliable. At times a rabbit person is a bit of a plotter and tends to be too conservative, but he/she is gifted with a positive yet practical outlook that few can fault. He/she has a talent to avoid the trouble and identify opportunity. But it is important to remember that his/her creative talents will come to the fore when he/she is allowed to work at your own pace. As a rule, colleagues value these people's tact and modesty and realize the fact that rabbit people are unlikely to step over others to achieve their goals.

 

 

Ideal Job for the Rabbit Include

counselor, barrister, judge, solicitor, adviser or secretary

 

Horoscope background

Lucky Numbers: 1, 3, 5, 9, 15, 19, 35
Equivalent Western Sign: Pisces
Element WOOD
Color GREEN
Yin/Yang YIN and YANG
Direction EAST

 

Celebrity

Some Famous Rabbits: Harry Belafonte, Ingrid Bergman, Lewis Carroll, John Cleese, Peter Falk, Peter Fonda, James Fox, David Frost, Cary Grant, Oliver Hardy, Bob Hope, Whitney Houston, John Hurt, Michael Keaton, John Keats, Julian Lennon, Arthur Miller, Roger Moore, Tatum O'Neal, George Orwell, Neil Simon, Jane Seymour, Dusty Springfield, Sting, Orson Welles, Norman Wisdom.

 

Rabbit Compatibility

Compatible with : Ram, Pig, Dog
Less Compatible with : Rat, Rabbit, Dragon, Ox, Tiger, Snake, Monkey
Least Compatible with : Rooster, Horse 

 

 

Positive and Negative Capability

Positive: The Rabbit can be sensitive, tactful. home-loving, refined, prudent, discreet, long-living, ambitious, cultured, well-mannered, artistic, considerate, scholarly, suave, graciously hospitable, modest and unimpeachable virtuous.

Negative: The Rabbit can also be snobbish, secretive, pedantic, complicated, haughtily indifferent, self-indulgent, hypochondria-cal, punctilious, judgmental, self-righteous, deceptive, self-centred and terminally condescending.

 

Where is this guy hiding......?

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”

Ready to Go!

Wish me luck ! Today is the 1st Annual Business Review in 2011 that I will be presenting to one of my top two anchor clients! Next is on 31st Jan .......So I am early today and just gonna share some of my own points on good presentation skills....

Picked this somewhere in the web....just not aligned with mine!

Preparation

Practise:

Practise on a colleague or friend. Think about who your audience is and what you want them to get out of an effective presentation. Think about content and style. If you video yourself get someone else to evaluate your performance; you will find it very difficult to be objective about yourself. Prepare, prepare, prepare. 

Reconnoitre:

Go into the presentation room before the event; practise any moves you may have to make, e.g. getting up from your chair to the podium. Errors in the first 20 seconds can be very disorientating. 

Avoid 'Blue peter syndrome':

Try not to over prepare. Don't rehearse the whole thing right through too often. Your time is better spent going over your opening and closing paragraphs. Rehearse your beginning and your finish. Pick a few choice bits to learn by heart. 

Technical support:

Test the equipment before the presentation; get familiar with it before you start. PowerPoint ! Often seem as though they're out to get you, so make sure you're in charge not them.

 

Visual aids:

Use visuals to give a big picture quickly. Show them graphics, pictures, cartoons bar charts etc; you can then use words to elaborate. Slides with words on are of limited value. If you seem to have a lot you may find you are showing your audience your speaker notes! 

When the lights are on you .....

Be yourself

Use any personal gestures or vocal inflections to your advantage. It's very hard to change the way you express yourself. More effective presentations are ones where you actual put the energy into the presentation (this is a message you will hear again). Similarly, do not try to be anyone else or copy another presenter's style.

Wave

Be more expressive rather than less. These days 'good communicators' are more and more frequently seen on TV and held up as models. You giving a presentation is not TV. This is you communicating live. Gestures help understanding and convey your enthusiasm for the topic.

Be Dynamic

This is not a flippant comment. We all tend to pay more attention to things that change. If you can vary the tone, volume and speed of your delivery you will hold your audiences attention for longer.  

Dress Smart

Well, if you have all of the above done, don yourself in a nice business attire, put on some light make up .....don't forget that smile and Breathe! Yeah ... I am ready to go right now!

 

It's pathetic if I have to post this guys.....

Harlow, harlow......??

I was damn sleepy an hour ago but something just got my mind working now. I should have been sleeping because I do have a very important presentation tomorrow afternoon but heck care! I can't sleep with insecurities running all over my head. Am I not entitled to my own vision, dreams, wants or even  any 1st thought that crosses my mind?   I had a brief conversation with my supposedly "best friend", "soulmate" or "other half" about simple and general things and it just got out of track . I seriously thought i could share anything under the stars... Honestly, my dear.....

Co-incidentally at that nick of time when I just didn't want to pursue the conversation and said I want to hang up the phone and go to bed, the line got lost! Well...that was what I thought and hope to be....not just some rudeness of hanging up the phone without proper goodbyes....so on my part, I  then sent a text to close off the evening, waited for 10 mins, and yet no reply ! Bummer! I should have expect that.....I just can't tolerate any rudeness especially from those that I love dearly ......

 ELSE..........

Just the way you are.....

One of my favourite listening....

Erupted!

It hasn't been a great morning at all. Had 4 hours of sleep only. Woke up early with a splitting headache. I am hosting some of my nieces from Sarawak over at my place as there will be a cousin's wedding this two days. 

In my earlier blog posting on PMS, I mentioned about my eruption! Finally, it did at 12pm today.....contributed by my headache, noisy and naughty Haziq who was just testing my patience since last night. and a conversation I had with my other half. I have to be careful with my choice of words....I have to be careful with rewording my intention....bottomline, I just have to shut up! Like a malay saying " Marahkan nyamuk, kelambu di bakar!"

I cried a while ago after canning Haziq. Did I use Haziq as a channel to release my anger for all the things that was building in me. I only wanted to give him one stroke as a punishment...I ended up  screaming and whacking him hard. Poor boy was helpless and hysterical. I am helpless myself too. For the last two days, my ears was filled with complaint from the maid and sister about his naughtiness and back home, he was full of excuses on his actions. He is just being a 4 year old boy.....

I am overly upset now with my actions.....yes, my actions were triggered by something out there. Being a single parent is just too taxing for me. There are pressures everywhere  on how I discipline my kids. I have been told many times. Seems like I will just go into a quicksand mode soon.  I had to make sure the household are run properly and adequately, I had to take care of the kids basic needs, discipline them and yet look after my own needs which I tend to put aside.... it's a heartless morning setting for me....just have no heart to do anything now...

2nd Chance ...Golden Chance....

 Hmmm.....sounds familiar yeah ....? You must be betting your last cent that I am talking about that local apparel and jewellery shop. Why not? After all, that group of company has been contributing so much to the Malay society and community in Singapore that probably every single Malay adult would remember it some way or another. I wonder why it was named and it's still called 2nd Chance. Easy guess would be that the owner wants to give every customer in his shop a second chance to get that purchase and not walk out empty handed......then the emergence of Golden Chance just lighted the Malay aunties' faces and cast some sparkle around the neck, wrist and everywhere possible they can display.....What else if not gold? Sadly for Golden Chance, I prefer diamond...

In a deeper context of 2nd chance, I am now in dilemma....serious dilemma. I am given the 2nd chance to make it happen again which I AM REALLY GAME for..BUT to do it within a very short time line. I just don't know what to do. The decision that I am being pressured to make,  will affect the rest of my life. Not only my life, my kids life too. The conversation I had this morning was just one way. It's either "July", "Nov" or "just forget about the whole thing" . Is that what the last 1 year plus is all about? TIMELINES?? 

It is really funny how reverse the situation is. Usually the guy will always want to hold on from saying "I do" but not with my beau. Yes, I do love him to the core. More than he knows.  However I fear that hasty decision results in nasty surprises.  I am not surprise I am feeling this way. Afterall, it was a damn bitter experience I had in my last one that I just need a little break and time away from any marriage now....I am still a very optimistic person  and supportive of marriage institution because I make a damn good wife....ask Yana! My long lasting classmate... my only fear is that once marriage settles in, the man will just be complacent and stop having that passion for the partner... even now, sadly my sayang Chai...I don't see your passion burning ...

I want to buy time...I am not running away.... I know I am blessed with a man who cares about my well being and the kids too ..indeed that is rare and a Golden Chance to have a man take me lock stock and barrel. How do I make him and his side see that not every relationship should end up in a marriage QUICKLY.... I am not saying NO ...it's just NOT YET....It's upsetting having to rush such important thing and not let the owner of that life have an equal say.....I am just confused and disgruntled ....Insyallah, there's gonna be light at the end of the tunnel...maybe the gold from that Golden Chance can shine some for me. I love my Chai!

BUT

Essentials in life

I MISS CHAI......

hmmm...... I will settle for the bolster now!

Pimp my ride

6 months after 14 August 2009, Traffic Police classified the following as a serious offence

yup..those were the good old days

Darn!

Unfaithfully Yours....

Hey ...It's almost mid Jan 2011. Yesterday's date was a significant number - 1.1.11.  I believed a lot of couples or lovers would have tied the eternal knot, put a (suffer) ring on each others' fingers and kaboom....there starts a life long journey of HOT and COLD. Be careful of which you turn on.

I was there. My husband then and I divorced over religious differences. He thought he was God, and I didn't! To me, marriage is a gamble, has no guarantees . What I had pictured and envisioned before the vows were exchanged was a bed of sweet smelling roses until I realized that the roses were plastic. By the way I prefer my purple roses to red ones.....

I can't picture myself in a marriage again unless my partner can be consistently consistent. I can't take HOT and COLD with unpredictable emotions. It has to be warm but I will settle for lukewarm to cold. I am not asking for the mountains but for that potential "Mr Hub" to have that smile which is like daybreak over the mountains.

On a serious note, marriage is the most valuable asset. It is a place for love, children, success and happiness: a pearl of great price.  I am still a strong supporter of marriage. For a person full of love and passion to give, I am not shy and ashamed to say that I make a damn good wife, partner and mother. But you need two hands to clap and make that perfect crispy clapping sound right?

I strongly believe that an important key element to any happy marriage is  good sex  life . Physical intimacy in any marriage just adds energy to your married life. In fact, its like revving up the energy to do the things that married life is about. At least that's the effect on me. Because after a night full of good, energetic, emotional and very hot love making session, I feel better about myself.  I feel a damn sight more receptive to his requests, desires and wants and I feel more desire to do the things that will make him happy. It's all about feeling being wanted. Even after being a mother, the desire heightens. Sadly, I generally see that sex is only HOT  in the courtship and early stage of a relationship and after that it is just a monthly routine! 

Another good thing to remember is taking care of each others' basic needs. It will do wonders for both partners' attitude and behavior in your marriage.Good positive attitude coupled with positive mood works! Great communication is good to inculcate. I used to date someone whom I can talk to about anything and no reservation needed. I can make stupid jokes, share my comments and laugh over small silly things. It 's all about being open-minded and the readiness to set and agree on expectations. However, it is important to understand the sensitivity nature of your partner if you want to be critical. in someways. I know humans are not perfect but at least to live life to the fullest, adopt that happy positive attitude.

Until that HOT, cute, tall, beefy, funny yet mysterious sharp nose driver in shining 20 inch rim wheels' come  proposing to me, I will keep on praying for good things to evolve around that person whom I would want to be "In Love With" eternally....till now my readers, I'm Unfaithfully Yours...