Where is this guy hiding......?

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”

Ready to Go!

Wish me luck ! Today is the 1st Annual Business Review in 2011 that I will be presenting to one of my top two anchor clients! Next is on 31st Jan .......So I am early today and just gonna share some of my own points on good presentation skills....

Picked this somewhere in the web....just not aligned with mine!

Preparation

Practise:

Practise on a colleague or friend. Think about who your audience is and what you want them to get out of an effective presentation. Think about content and style. If you video yourself get someone else to evaluate your performance; you will find it very difficult to be objective about yourself. Prepare, prepare, prepare. 

Reconnoitre:

Go into the presentation room before the event; practise any moves you may have to make, e.g. getting up from your chair to the podium. Errors in the first 20 seconds can be very disorientating. 

Avoid 'Blue peter syndrome':

Try not to over prepare. Don't rehearse the whole thing right through too often. Your time is better spent going over your opening and closing paragraphs. Rehearse your beginning and your finish. Pick a few choice bits to learn by heart. 

Technical support:

Test the equipment before the presentation; get familiar with it before you start. PowerPoint ! Often seem as though they're out to get you, so make sure you're in charge not them.

 

Visual aids:

Use visuals to give a big picture quickly. Show them graphics, pictures, cartoons bar charts etc; you can then use words to elaborate. Slides with words on are of limited value. If you seem to have a lot you may find you are showing your audience your speaker notes! 

When the lights are on you .....

Be yourself

Use any personal gestures or vocal inflections to your advantage. It's very hard to change the way you express yourself. More effective presentations are ones where you actual put the energy into the presentation (this is a message you will hear again). Similarly, do not try to be anyone else or copy another presenter's style.

Wave

Be more expressive rather than less. These days 'good communicators' are more and more frequently seen on TV and held up as models. You giving a presentation is not TV. This is you communicating live. Gestures help understanding and convey your enthusiasm for the topic.

Be Dynamic

This is not a flippant comment. We all tend to pay more attention to things that change. If you can vary the tone, volume and speed of your delivery you will hold your audiences attention for longer.  

Dress Smart

Well, if you have all of the above done, don yourself in a nice business attire, put on some light make up .....don't forget that smile and Breathe! Yeah ... I am ready to go right now!

 

It's pathetic if I have to post this guys.....

Harlow, harlow......??

I was damn sleepy an hour ago but something just got my mind working now. I should have been sleeping because I do have a very important presentation tomorrow afternoon but heck care! I can't sleep with insecurities running all over my head. Am I not entitled to my own vision, dreams, wants or even  any 1st thought that crosses my mind?   I had a brief conversation with my supposedly "best friend", "soulmate" or "other half" about simple and general things and it just got out of track . I seriously thought i could share anything under the stars... Honestly, my dear.....

Co-incidentally at that nick of time when I just didn't want to pursue the conversation and said I want to hang up the phone and go to bed, the line got lost! Well...that was what I thought and hope to be....not just some rudeness of hanging up the phone without proper goodbyes....so on my part, I  then sent a text to close off the evening, waited for 10 mins, and yet no reply ! Bummer! I should have expect that.....I just can't tolerate any rudeness especially from those that I love dearly ......

 ELSE..........

Just the way you are.....

One of my favourite listening....

Erupted!

It hasn't been a great morning at all. Had 4 hours of sleep only. Woke up early with a splitting headache. I am hosting some of my nieces from Sarawak over at my place as there will be a cousin's wedding this two days. 

In my earlier blog posting on PMS, I mentioned about my eruption! Finally, it did at 12pm today.....contributed by my headache, noisy and naughty Haziq who was just testing my patience since last night. and a conversation I had with my other half. I have to be careful with my choice of words....I have to be careful with rewording my intention....bottomline, I just have to shut up! Like a malay saying " Marahkan nyamuk, kelambu di bakar!"

I cried a while ago after canning Haziq. Did I use Haziq as a channel to release my anger for all the things that was building in me. I only wanted to give him one stroke as a punishment...I ended up  screaming and whacking him hard. Poor boy was helpless and hysterical. I am helpless myself too. For the last two days, my ears was filled with complaint from the maid and sister about his naughtiness and back home, he was full of excuses on his actions. He is just being a 4 year old boy.....

I am overly upset now with my actions.....yes, my actions were triggered by something out there. Being a single parent is just too taxing for me. There are pressures everywhere  on how I discipline my kids. I have been told many times. Seems like I will just go into a quicksand mode soon.  I had to make sure the household are run properly and adequately, I had to take care of the kids basic needs, discipline them and yet look after my own needs which I tend to put aside.... it's a heartless morning setting for me....just have no heart to do anything now...

2nd Chance ...Golden Chance....

 Hmmm.....sounds familiar yeah ....? You must be betting your last cent that I am talking about that local apparel and jewellery shop. Why not? After all, that group of company has been contributing so much to the Malay society and community in Singapore that probably every single Malay adult would remember it some way or another. I wonder why it was named and it's still called 2nd Chance. Easy guess would be that the owner wants to give every customer in his shop a second chance to get that purchase and not walk out empty handed......then the emergence of Golden Chance just lighted the Malay aunties' faces and cast some sparkle around the neck, wrist and everywhere possible they can display.....What else if not gold? Sadly for Golden Chance, I prefer diamond...

In a deeper context of 2nd chance, I am now in dilemma....serious dilemma. I am given the 2nd chance to make it happen again which I AM REALLY GAME for..BUT to do it within a very short time line. I just don't know what to do. The decision that I am being pressured to make,  will affect the rest of my life. Not only my life, my kids life too. The conversation I had this morning was just one way. It's either "July", "Nov" or "just forget about the whole thing" . Is that what the last 1 year plus is all about? TIMELINES?? 

It is really funny how reverse the situation is. Usually the guy will always want to hold on from saying "I do" but not with my beau. Yes, I do love him to the core. More than he knows.  However I fear that hasty decision results in nasty surprises.  I am not surprise I am feeling this way. Afterall, it was a damn bitter experience I had in my last one that I just need a little break and time away from any marriage now....I am still a very optimistic person  and supportive of marriage institution because I make a damn good wife....ask Yana! My long lasting classmate... my only fear is that once marriage settles in, the man will just be complacent and stop having that passion for the partner... even now, sadly my sayang Chai...I don't see your passion burning ...

I want to buy time...I am not running away.... I know I am blessed with a man who cares about my well being and the kids too ..indeed that is rare and a Golden Chance to have a man take me lock stock and barrel. How do I make him and his side see that not every relationship should end up in a marriage QUICKLY.... I am not saying NO ...it's just NOT YET....It's upsetting having to rush such important thing and not let the owner of that life have an equal say.....I am just confused and disgruntled ....Insyallah, there's gonna be light at the end of the tunnel...maybe the gold from that Golden Chance can shine some for me. I love my Chai!

BUT

Essentials in life

I MISS CHAI......

hmmm...... I will settle for the bolster now!

Pimp my ride

6 months after 14 August 2009, Traffic Police classified the following as a serious offence

yup..those were the good old days

Darn!

Unfaithfully Yours....

Hey ...It's almost mid Jan 2011. Yesterday's date was a significant number - 1.1.11.  I believed a lot of couples or lovers would have tied the eternal knot, put a (suffer) ring on each others' fingers and kaboom....there starts a life long journey of HOT and COLD. Be careful of which you turn on.

I was there. My husband then and I divorced over religious differences. He thought he was God, and I didn't! To me, marriage is a gamble, has no guarantees . What I had pictured and envisioned before the vows were exchanged was a bed of sweet smelling roses until I realized that the roses were plastic. By the way I prefer my purple roses to red ones.....

I can't picture myself in a marriage again unless my partner can be consistently consistent. I can't take HOT and COLD with unpredictable emotions. It has to be warm but I will settle for lukewarm to cold. I am not asking for the mountains but for that potential "Mr Hub" to have that smile which is like daybreak over the mountains.

On a serious note, marriage is the most valuable asset. It is a place for love, children, success and happiness: a pearl of great price.  I am still a strong supporter of marriage. For a person full of love and passion to give, I am not shy and ashamed to say that I make a damn good wife, partner and mother. But you need two hands to clap and make that perfect crispy clapping sound right?

I strongly believe that an important key element to any happy marriage is  good sex  life . Physical intimacy in any marriage just adds energy to your married life. In fact, its like revving up the energy to do the things that married life is about. At least that's the effect on me. Because after a night full of good, energetic, emotional and very hot love making session, I feel better about myself.  I feel a damn sight more receptive to his requests, desires and wants and I feel more desire to do the things that will make him happy. It's all about feeling being wanted. Even after being a mother, the desire heightens. Sadly, I generally see that sex is only HOT  in the courtship and early stage of a relationship and after that it is just a monthly routine! 

Another good thing to remember is taking care of each others' basic needs. It will do wonders for both partners' attitude and behavior in your marriage.Good positive attitude coupled with positive mood works! Great communication is good to inculcate. I used to date someone whom I can talk to about anything and no reservation needed. I can make stupid jokes, share my comments and laugh over small silly things. It 's all about being open-minded and the readiness to set and agree on expectations. However, it is important to understand the sensitivity nature of your partner if you want to be critical. in someways. I know humans are not perfect but at least to live life to the fullest, adopt that happy positive attitude.

Until that HOT, cute, tall, beefy, funny yet mysterious sharp nose driver in shining 20 inch rim wheels' come  proposing to me, I will keep on praying for good things to evolve around that person whom I would want to be "In Love With" eternally....till now my readers, I'm Unfaithfully Yours...

In times of diversity.....

Yes!! One big review meeting done today and 2 more to go.....what a relief! I am surely counting down the days in Jan to pass quickly and complete all the Annual Business Reviews so that my life can go back to normal and my blood pressure level can go down!

Anyway in times of diversity, no one is helping us except ourselves. I stumbled upon some nice tips to stay happy and focus for 2011...read on!

 

Tip #1 - Keep Positive

- Where the mind goes, the body follows. For this reason, try focusing on the positive of each situation. You'll find you stress less and are more happy overall.

Tip #2 - Just Say No!

- Don't be afraid to say no to people (in a nice way of course) when you're "plate" is already full. You're no good to anyone.....including yourself, if you're burnt out.

Tip #3 - Don't Sweat It

- Learn to let the little things go. Stressing or getting upset over these things will end up damaging your body and relationships.

Tip #4 - Don't Forget To Breathe (not sigh!)

- It's inevitable that you'll be faced with stressful situations. A quick way to calm down is to breathe in....and breathe out quietly. Even if it seems a little silly, try it. I use this all the time (I used to sigh alot), and find it works great.

Tip #5 - Make Yourself a Priority

- All work and no play is a recipe for a meltdown when stress hits. The chemicals released when you're doing something you enjoy help balance  out the changes triggered during stress. This is true whether you relax in a warm bath, or get out and play your favorite sport or belting your favourite song.

Tip #6 - Laughter & Tears

- Laughteris a great way to release stress. Make time for your favorite comedy or having a good time with family and friends. You'll release a lot of built up tension and feel better.

Ever get the urge to cry when you are going through a lot?.....let it out! This is the body's way of relieving the pressure from stress. Trust me, you'll feel much better afterwards.

Tip #7 - Meditation

- Meditationhelps to relax your mind and body. You learn to focus on the present moment and on becoming more aware of stress triggers....this puts YOU in control. The relaxed state during meditation gives the body a chance to rebalance. Praying is one form of calming your mind...

Tip #8 - Massage

- I love massages (Thanks Kak Zizah).

Your muscles carry the tension when you are stressed. A good massagehelps to relieve it. Your body gets a chance to come down from it's stressful state. Throwing in some aromatherapycan help even more with relaxation.

Tip #9 - Music

- Taking a break from your busy day to listen to some relaxing and mellow music can go a long way. Try some deep house music too. Music's affect on the mind and body is very powerful. Tap into that by using it to help relieve your body and mind of stress.  Smooth jazz or deep kwaito sounds are my favorites to relax to and of course dance to!

Tip #10 - Exercise

- Making time to give your body a workout can also help with stress. The energy used to exercise helps relieve built up tension and pressure in the body. Whether you take a brisk walk or doing a retail therapy on your lunch break, or running to your favourite dance beat .....you're doing your body some good.   

I am giving away...

It's been a while, a very long while, since I get a good, warm, loving and a tight one........

so instead of waiting to receive, I'm giving

the result of insomnia tonight......

My Mini Me ..

Got home an hour before midnight....Kids all asleep. Quietly I tip toed to Adriana's room and switch off her aircon (it's already bloody freezing as it rained the whole day...still raining now!). Adriana woke up to check if I have bought her Tim Sum, which I did. She gobbled down both of the tim sum while accompanying me changed. We sat down at the kitchen table, while I sipped my nescafe and gave each other daily updates. The last I saw her was at 6.30am when she leaves for school everyday.......Almost 17 hours later then I see her face again. This is not my routine night...It's just that I had to work late tonight...sigh!

I asked her as much questions as i could about  her school day , what she did at home, her homework, her meals for the day, her friends and anything else that I could think of in that 15 mins together.....It made me realize how much I miss talking and joking with her... she ended her night hugging me and in her little voice saying .." Nite mummy, Love you'.

As she lie down beside me now, sleeping, I see an innocent little girl's face who just need that tender loving care and attention from the mother. After all she is only 8 years old but she is so reliable in managing herself. Knowing her weaknesses and strength, I will just want to positively encourage and motivate her in everything she wants to do. Never will I use any negative reinforcement with her. I know how delicate and sensitive she can be especially since the father is not staying together. She always envision a happy loving family which she expresses through her drawings. Most importantly, I will not shortchange my care and love for my kids. I will be her mother and hopefully she finds a confidante in me .....Adriana dearest, don't ever forget that Mummy loves u!

Six Sigma or SICK Sigma?

I am doomed.....as of now, I am still stuck in the office trying desperately to complete my 6 SIGMA project ....presentation is tomorrow afternoon and I am only halfway through it....... It was a supposed to be a 5 man team project and along the way, people leave the organisation and I am last man standing to put all in the slides........Gonna burn midnight oil...maybe will caught fire if not done timely....I'm DEAD.

PMS-Psychotic Mood Shift... Permanently Men Syndrome

 

As I penned this down now.. My partner who is driving beside me, unfortunately is suffering from it. How I wish I could help him overcome it but it just got worse when I open my mouth to question. Just led to nowhere and a great weekend ended on such a low note..

IN GENERAL, it's definitely becoming popular for men to suffer from this...I say "suffer" because it is such a negative behaviour...men feeling antisocial, suffering poor concentration, depression, lack of arousal,  hot flashes and pain - including stomach cramps, back pain and headache ....all an indication of aging and hormonal imbalance. I remember a friend telling me that IN GENERAL most middle-aged men will start experience a sudden fall in testosterone - a hormone responsible for sex drive, sperm production and muscle tone! Depression and a lack of sex drive are probably suffering the side effects of being overweight, lazy, smoking and drinking too much.....hmmmm now I have my answer...! Look guys, 2010 is over and Jan is still fresh...So freshen up too and leave that PMS behind! Don't bring along to 2011.. Damn! 

 Fortunately I am blessed with great patience to tolerate it. But bear in mind that many volcanoes have erupted last year..remember Eyjafjallajökull in Iceland,  Mount Merapi in Indonesia, Pacaya in Guatemala, Mayon in Philippines....there's one soon in the Eastern Singapore, Mount Sue that will soon erupt if things don't go for the better. By the way, I get this always........

Melting Pots and My Screaming Tummy

It's s lazy sunday....the weather is too good for me to get out of bed. Yup it's half past two and I am still in my nightie....Wish there's room service. I want my local savoury pls...heck care about the additional 2 kgs that I have put on last week......any kind saint or angel passing by my abode, I wants these please...

It's all in the HOUSE....more to come

My favourite running track..

Rosa Nova

Shake It

I Can't Stop

I'm Back

Thank God Its Only Headache

At least there's my lifesaver SYNFLEX & Yoko Yoko Rub that could instantly cure my headache....Imagine if it's heartache...I wonder what would be the cure....

On a serious note, colleagues in the office are constantly worrying on the amount of drugs that I popped every time my head banging session comes. I do notice a trend where my headache is concerned. Only when I am STRESS!! Yes, yes, yes, i have been exposed to inconsiderable amount of deadlines, business reviews, lack of sleep, bla bla bla & the list goes on..

I will definitely touch on STRESS in my future post...for now, its the throbbing HEADACHE  that I am overly concerned with..... we all know that headache is a common complaint among both sexes, but I read that  women do have a slight edge beating the men out 95% to 90%.....and migraine headaches occur in women three times as often as in men...hmmmm I wonder if companies are now gonna recruit more man then woman because of this statistic.

 Getting a headache already seeing my friend above?

So what causes headache? Illness such as a sinus infection, cold, the flu ...... But the possibility of a potentially life-threatening illness such as cerebral hemorrhage (just hope its not cerebral faceatities;  lot of shit in the head) a tumor, or an infection of the brain remains. Several factors can trigger headaches including illness, nutrition and of course your environment (if your friends are getting it, might as well join in!)

Foods such as chocolate, anything pickled, nuts, sourdough, bananas, pizza, sausage or bologna are among several foods that often trigger migraines. Excess amounts of coffee, tea, and caffeine sodas may also trigger migraine...So friends, beat the headache, I heard a good love making session is a cure to it.....I'm game!! But hmmmm, is my other half hearing me?

Destressing Chillax Me

I had a crazy welcome back week at work. Annoying 2011 so far. It was so crazy and stressful  that I almost had headache everyday. I decided that I will just totally switch off my mind from work and just lock myself in my bedroom and "go stone" that Friday evening. It's just a term to mean that I will just stare blankly at the ceiling and walls or whatever things that don't response to me at all.  I totally was over drained.

So much sure of how I wanted to de-stress in my room,  I ended up on both Friday and Saturday evenings in Coastes, Sentosa...yup with great ambience, company, food and music.God must have shared my misery and plight, he made the evening weather so cooling. Weeks back, my trip to Coastes Sentosa was a totally wet experience.

From 8 till about 11 that evening, I had the sound of music from Latin Affairs on Friday and Sugarlove on Saturday, both 3 piece band with different style of play. A guitarist, percussionist and their crooner.  Latin Affairs was mostly doing the Spanish songs. The crooner was this young fresh Columbian lady who could hardly speak good English but was good with her Latin ballad. Coastes has good crowd on both days and some even danced to the music.I had a good time observing this group of young Americans patrons whom I am very sure are professional theater dancers boogie, swaying, salsa-ing, jitterbug and just prancing along with the music...if only Singaporeans can be as spontaneous as they are!  Sugarlove on Saturday was of course with their good experience was playing all genre of music and it was just a splendid way to spend my weekend. I brought curly Haziq there and he was independently entertaining himself  with the bikini clad promoter girls...that's my little cheeky boy!  How I wish now clock would stop ticking and just stay Sunday forever......

Gonna go through my Saturday recruitment papers and....hmmmmm....maybe "window shopping" ... its been awhile!

Ouch!

It was 6am this morning that I was awaken up by a bad tummy ache and nausea feeling, waiting to throw up. Can blame it on the chilly sardine puff or the leftover chicken curry in the fridge....what ever it was, i felt so rotten. Work has to go on. Just finished my 8am conference call with US and now gonna change to my office wear for a client meeting .....

If my work could talk....

Nothing on me.....really?

So much talk about this song ......and I thought HE would want to dedicate it to me....in my wildest dream! Anyway, the lyric suits HIS past journey well and of course not forgetting those Beautiful Models he dated before me...well enjoy the talented Bruno Mars!
 While I am gonna enjoy loving my Chai.

Eyes eyes baby

It's been a long day at work, shuttling between 2 offices today. Had anticipated that I will finish late just like the last 3 days. Ever since the new year, work has been piling up and a good l0-12 hours were spent working daily. My eyes eyes baby, my one pair and only is screaming for help, to take them away from staring at the bloody screen painted with work issues... So so desperately.

Let me tell you why. I am blessed with a perfect vision...NOT. Had an eye check recently when I made new pair of glasses.. My degree went up for both eyes.Just short of going totally blind. I will look fresh and good at d start of d day and by mid day, the panda and her dark ring carrying a nice loaded bag will slowly emerge. That is an indication that I have worked long enough. I have been told that I have a beautiful pair of deep sunken eyes and at the rate I am working, not only my eyes will sink, every part of me will soon too...

I can't blame my work as the total cause of the panda rings....my other bed partner "Insomnia" just love being with me every night now. My colleagues in the office are speculating that I am not getting adequate or any  good "sexercise" before sleep.....hmmmm, that is a considerable thought and also a nostrum!  My bolster and my bedroom walls could answer to that.

As I sit at the eM bar by d river now waiting for my best friend, my other half... ..enjoying the cool weather with the warm lighting from the restaurant alfresco setting, my sight are giving away. An ideal way to relax the mind, soul and body is to sip some cooling mohito (by the way, eM has one of the best mohito), but that will just deteriorate my eye bags....People are busy getting iPad n I so badly need my EYE pad. Getting a lasik treatment is a consideration too.  At my age, I will fight to keep my eyes healthy and wealthy so that the eye candies are still within my vision. Eyes eyes baby, carrots and eye collagen coming your way honey...

Because of you ...Insomnia

That is how I am seeing today gonna be.....back to back meetings and potential stealing nap in between! DHL does not exist for nothing....Damn Hard Life. Best of all, none of my favourite wake up perks is within reach now.....Come to me now one of you.....i need a good wake up and START for the day.......

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